When most people first hear Professional Golfer, they immediately think "Oh, they have it so easy! They just get to play golf every day and life is grand!"
Well, the truth is, it's not always rosy. This year hasn't gone exactly the way we HOPED it would happen, as far as making cuts on the Web.com Tour, but we are choosing to be positive and understand that God has it all under control and He is taking care of us and still blessing us in so many ways!
This year has been full of travel (for Jared mostly) and LOTS of time apart from each other. I am very thankful to have an incredible family that I work for that helps accommodate our crazy schedule and allows me to travel with Jared once in a while.
The Web.Com Tour Chaplain and his wife suggested an AMAZING book called, "Grace Filled Marriage" for us to read. We are only through chapter 7 so far, and it has helped us TREMENDOUSLY. We are finally doing what God wants us to do and put our COMPLETE and FULL trust and hope in HIM, not the other spouse. Jared and I are human, and are nowhere near perfect! This book has helped us learn how to show each other GRACE when the other disappoints us by forgetting something or not being very kind when responding to the other in a conversation, or whatever the situation may be. The conversation with the Chaplain and his wife was a HUGE moment where God spoke through them directly to me and made me realize that I needed to make some changes! If I am going to TRULY be all in to Jared's dream, then I need to be on board with him being gone a lot, and not so miserable when I'm at home alone. This has been a HUGE change and I cannot even begin to describe how FUN and HAPPY I have been since the conversation. So, I've decided to share a few tips on how I am TRYING (b/c I'm not perfect, nor will I ever be) to be positive in everything I do.
When Jared is gone, I cherish fun moments with these incredible kiddos I nanny everyday. They are so sweet and I have a BLAST and don't even feel like I am at "work".
I've reached out to NEW friends in this new city that I have lived in for a little over a year now! Girl time is ALWAYS fun and it helps me enjoy the moment that I am in and not focus on missing Jared and that he gets to travel to all these cool places. I have plenty of fun RIGHT HERE on my own with friends!
Fortunately, Jared's whole family lives here, so I spend time with them and have fun with them while he is gone too!
I've also had some opportunities to travel back to my parent's house and go to TWO of my friend's weddings, and catch up with friends! Friendship is a WONDERFUL thing!
While we wish that Jared would have made the cut in Utah, that wasn't God's plan. Instead, he flew in and we got to attend a friend's wedding TOGETHER! My parents surprised us and bought us both a fancy new outfit to wear. We LOVED spending the night having fun together, catching up with old friends, and not talking about golf!
The BIGGEST thing that helps us while we are apart is FACETIME. How incredible is technology these days!?!?!? Even if we can't physically be next to each other, it has been fun to see each other and talk like we are right next to each other having a conversation. One night, we even had a dinner date with each other! :)
While this stage on our path to the PGA Tour isn't always easy, we are choosing to stay positive and enjoy each moment!
I love this guy and I am so thankful that God blessed me with him as my husband to live life together!
I am also so thankful for God's GRACE and His perfect example, so that I can try each and every day to be more like Him.
Do you have any tips for us when we are long distance?
Have you read any other good marriage books?
We'd love your suggestions!